YOU knew when they landed on your chest they needed your touch.
YOU knew it would be your hands to stroke, soothe and help them to feel calm and safe.
YOU knew it would be your arms to cuddle and squeeze them when they needed to feel secure and supported.
YOU knew it would be your heartbeat they would feel when laying on your chest, the vibration they needed to feel connected.
YOU knew your physical bond was ESSENTIAL to your baby's SURVIVAL.
YOU did not need to be told this.
YOUR BODY knew what it needed to do.
YOUR BODY always knows what your child needs...
YOU have always been responding to your child's emotional and physical needs from your own natural internal instincts.
YOU were the one to feel the intensity of their cries when your body was responding with an increasing heartrate and shock when woken multiple times in the night.
A parent and child connection is a bond that is instinctive.
YOUR reactions are based on theirs.
THEIR reactions are based on yours.
When we heard our baby's cries, we stroked, we cuddled, we bounced, we used our hands to massage, musical vibrations to soothe...
When we're past the infancy stage and younger early childhood years, as our children grow and become more confident and independent, we shift our nurturing physical presence to perhaps just one of verbal emotional support.
SUDDENLY society conformity comes into play and it feels inappropriate to be 'touching,' our child past a certain age.
'TOUCH' that was once the safest, most loving and nurturing action, moves to the complete opposite side of the spectrum...the most 'DANGEROUS!'
You only have to remember the News Reports of the apparent inappropriateness of David Beckham kissing his child.
I have ONE very strong MESSAGE to all parents...
PHYSICAL HUMAN TOUCH IS AN ESSENTIAL NECESSITY FOR OUR SURVIVAL.
Our Nervous System and entire Health and Wellbeing for that matter depends on it!
It help us regulate our emotions, release tension and stress, feel loved, supported and safe in order to THRIVE.
HUMANS need CONNECTION.
Society has also now condemned people for expressing their NEEDS as weakness.
Labelling people as 'needy.'
It is a FACT that without HUMAN CONNECTION, loneliness is the main reason for depression which causes illness and disease which can cause death.
SCIENCE has taught us that Nurturing Touch helps our child's brain development, almost doubling the size of their Amygdala (emotional learning and behaviour) when compared to those children who have suffered neglect.
YOU KNEW what you needed to do to help soothe your baby.
I'm here to tell you, THAT HUMAN NEED FOR SURVIVAL NEVER CHANGES.
As your child develops and grows, they NEED your constant emotional and physical support.
Mind and Body Connection.
EVEN AS ADULTS.
As a Physical Therapist, I treat many people as adults who come to me for their emotional and physical support.
Listen to your instincts as a parent.
YOUR BODY knows how to help them.
EVERY Parent should know how to do this.
These skills should NOT just be reserved for Physical Therapists.
It's our duty as a profession to ensure Physical Therapy is part of your family's daily routine.
BECAUSE WE ALWAYS NEED IT.
The BEST bit, these SKILLS help every family member - every relationship - NOT JUST YOUR CHILDREN - Yourself, your partner, your loved ones and if needed your friends.
SKILLS past to generations.
Once we embed these physical habits into our lives, we raise a new generation of adults who make their self-care a priority, who know how to model this for their children and we create a HUGE SHIFT.
This is not just a TRANSFORMATION for you and your family, this is a WAKE UP call to help us all remember that we are humans with basic essential needs.
We must not let external pressures, societal pressures, conformity or other drown out our natural most basic instincts.
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